Dating things to ask
If you had to give me a nickname right now on the spot, what would it be? Do you think it’s possible that we met in a previous life?
Or maybe they don’t care much about their job at all, because work is something they just do to fund their personal life.
In any case, you want to get a sense for how much work factors into a person’s life pretty early on.
The trick is to discover the other person slowly, to keep the interest sustained.
So avoid making the first date a marathon question and answer session! - Would you bungee jump/get a tattoo on a dare/whim? - An ideal evening would be spent alone or with friends?
Instead, spread them out over a few dates, starting off with the really casual questions on the first date, and then making them more personal or intimate. - What qualities would you look for in your partner? - If you had a million dollars, what would you do with the money? - Which, according to you, is the most romantic musical instrument/language? - Arrange according to preference - sun, sand, snow? - What are your thoughts about marriage and religion? - Is there any goal/dream you have which you think cannot be fulfilled now because it's too late?
Try to keep the questions to a reasonable amount, say maybe 5 to 6 questions per date. - Does your first love still hold a special place in your heart? - If your partner wants to do something you don't particularly like/enjoy, would you do it with him? - Do you like going to the theater or for concerts? - Which is the one place you would like to visit/settle in?When I was dating I remember constantly being smothered with that giant question like a bloated bear was sitting on my head, refusing to move. To magically stumble upon like finding the gold at the end of a rainbow that is being carried by a unicorn with leprechaun jockey.But how are you supposed to know which one is the right one?Sometimes people hit a phase of bad luck with their career and they're fortunate enough to have support, other times not.But if he’s like 27 and his parents still pay his rent and he thinks it's NBD, RUN.In the meantime, here is something to get you started...- Do you believe in making compromises for a relationship/marriage, and to what extent? - If you had to choose to live with someone who truly loves you, but you don't love him back, or to live alone for the rest of your life loving someone who doesn't love you, who would you choose? - What genres do you prefer in - movies, music and books? - Can you tell me about an incident in your life that is close to your heart? - What's the one thing you have done that you regret? - Tell me one thing that you have done/accomplished, that makes you proud of yourself? - Which was the best/most stimulating conversation you have ever had? - Would you expect forgiveness if you cheated on your partner?